Couples Counseling

Path 1 – Healing the Individual for a Better Partnership

Think of this approach as planting seeds in a garden where healing and connection can flourish.

We begin by tending to the partner who’s walking the path of trauma recovery, gently nurturing their individual growth.

Once a foundation of safety and resilience starts to take root, we invite their partner into the therapeutic space, transforming the relationship into a sanctuary of support and stability during times of activation.

Here’s how the magic unfolds…

Creating a supportive environment…

Together, we’ll unravel the mysteries of trauma reminders and activations, learning how to recognize and respond to them like weather patterns in the soul’s sky.

We’ll cultivate a nurturing environment where co-regulation becomes second nature, making safety the soil in which your relationship grows (rather than just a distant goal).

Understanding the neurobiology of trauma…

I’ll guide you through the fascinating world of how trauma shapes the body and nervous system. You’ll discover how “trauma brain” can show up in thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, like shadows that shift and change.

With this understanding, you’ll be empowered to offer empathy and patience when they’re needed most, standing steady like a lighthouse in the storm.

Communication skills that honor your experience…

You’ll learn the language of connection, gaining tools for expressing yourselves openly and listening deeply – even when emotions are running high. These skills create pathways through the tangled woods of dysregulation, allowing you to find your way back to each other time and time again.

Safe intimacy practices…

We’ll also explore how trauma impacts the body’s experience of intimacy, learning ways to reclaim closeness that feels safe and nourishing. Together, you’ll navigate boundaries like seasoned sailors, attuning to each other’s needs and rediscovering intimacy that empowers and heals.

Path 2 – Couples Entering Therapy Together

Welcome to a journey where you and your partner step into healing hand in hand… right from the start.

Here, we’ll venture into the tender places where one partner’s trauma has cast shadows, gently reshaping the way you communicate. As you rekindle trust, you’ll invite a deeper connection to unfold.

This path is especially for couples feeling stuck, yearning for more freedom in their choices, or longing to bring intimacy back into the heart of their relationship.

Here’s what our adventure might look like…

Navigating communication and connection…

We’ll journey into the heart of what makes communication meaningful and supportive. It’s about learning truly to hear one another – not just the words, but the emotions and needs underneath them.

We’ll explore ways to express feelings without blame, ask for what you need with confidence, and respond to each other with understanding and compassion.

It’s a dance of vulnerability and trust, where you’ll discover how to shift from conflict to connection, allowing your relationship to feel like a safe and loving haven in the midst of life’s storms.

Reconnecting through shared visions and values…

Imagine uncovering the treasure map of your relationship – rediscovering the “why” that brought you together in the first place.

I’ll help you unearth those shared dreams and core values, dusting them off and placing them back in the center of your life together. With each step, we’ll shift the focus away from what has hurt and toward the life you both dream of creating… like two explorers setting out toward a sparkling horizon.

Unraveling trauma brain’s hold on the relationship…

Trauma can weave tricky webs, creating walls that seem impossible to climb. But together, we’ll begin to untangle those threads, unraveling what’s behind the barriers – be it fear, shame, or something else entirely.

We’ll soften the edges, dismantle the walls, and open the door to real closeness, allowing your relationship to breathe again, like a gentle wind clearing the clouds for the sun to shine through.

No matter what path you take…

Our aim is to help you as partners see and hold each other in your truest forms – not defined by trauma but shaped by the resilience that comes from navigating it.

Our sessions offer a space for learning, healing, and reclaiming the joy of being in a relationship that can weather any storm.

You’ll leave with not just skills and strategies, but also a deeper sense of how to grow together.

Please, don’t wait…

You’re here because your relationship is precious, and you want to save it.

Let me help you find freedom, intimacy, and connection despite past pain.

I’ll honor both of your journeys as we unlock the magic of the life you’re creating together!

All you have to do is reach out. Give me a call, and we’ll schedule your free consultation: (760) 710-9213.